Ten women would understand that the marriage lies

Many surveys show that premarital cohabitation of couples in a marriage, a higher degree of marital dissatisfaction, but also a large proportion of the final choice of divorce. One reason is that unmarried men and women living together is more casual attitude towards marriage, nor did it keep its promise, there is a problem, easy to choose more escapist and irresponsible solution: divorce. Recent census data show that the divorce rate - as one would expect the same - steadily increased, with nearly half of marriages eventually ending in divorce, there are many divorced couples are not re-examine the relationship between them, Prior to making arbitrary, it may be from a number of popular lies about marriage to understand the truth of marriage.




Fallacy 1: Marriage is more beneficial to men.

Truth: In contrast with the widespread recognition in recent years, the study found that men and women actually benefit from the marriage, rather, only a different way, marriage is more beneficial for men this argument is untenable. Relative to single men and women, marriage life, men and women live longer, live more happy, more healthy, more wealthy. Because a woman's control, and a man's way of life will be more healthy, but because of man's struggle, the women have more disposable money.



Fallacy 2: Children can be more intimate relationship between husband and wife, but also make married life happier.

Truth: Many studies have shown that the first birth of a child often makes the distance between the moms and dads have become farther, but also to bring greater pressure on the marriage. However, taking into account children, couples with children divorce rate in couples without children are far better than lower, for divorce, they will be more cautious.



Fallacy 3: has a long-term marriageTipsIs a romantic love and luck.

Truth: Compared to love and luck, those who live a lifetime ofElderlyAre more willing to "bear responsibility" and "great friend spend the" as their reason for the success of marriage. They will own marriage as an included hard work, dedication and commitment of the creations, including a unique. Happy couples are like friends together to share life, share a common interest in hobbies and values.



Fallacy 4: Women higher education, marriage and lower odds.

Truth: Recently, there is a 90 based on the mid-20th century, the marriage rate emerging from the study of the "new" Conclusion: The college-educated women than with their less educated peers, but a higher percentage of married women, although their age of marriage may be will be later. Forward development of society, the original kind of "highly educated = old maid" has gone.



Fallacy 5: The pre-marital cohabitation to test the suitability between couples living together, than those who had not been married couples living together before marriage, marriage is more solid.

Truth: too many polls have shown that couples living together before marriage, after marriage, a higher degree of marital dissatisfaction, but also a large proportion of the final choice of divorce. One reason is that unmarried men and women living together is more casual attitude towards marriage, nor did it keep its promise, there is a problem, easy to choose more escapist and irresponsible solution: divorce. Moreover, the early life of two people see each other with the most realistic aspect of a happy marriage may make change more difficult. A recent study shows that cohabitation between two people too lazy to enhance their capacity to resolve conflicts, do not like each other and their relationship to the patient too much. (There are exceptions, if the cohabitation of two people intend to marry in the near future, then they will be the possibility of a happy marriage, greater) fallacy VI: modern life has increased, it is not possible as in the past only the end of his life first marriage truth: Unless we the people to go over a long time ago, otherwise, this argument is unfounded, you can see from the figures, the average life span to extend the biggest reason is that infant mortality significantly reduced. Now, even if you live than your grandparents, so a few years, as people age of marriage was generally pushed back, so stay siege in the time of marriage is similar, therefore, a typical divorce, the marriage can be maintained free of time in the past five decades, and has not changed much. Many couples do not have time to live together in to celebrate a significant wedding anniversary (such as golden, silver wedding) before they had been divorced and the most representative one is the marriage with "The Seven Year Itch."



Fallacy 7: a woman as long as the marriage, there is likely to fall into a bottomless abyss of domestic violence, single, then there would be no danger.

Truth: "to get a marriage certificate for the men, this also means that at the same time to obtain a legitimate boxing license", marriage is really the birthplace of domestic violence do? In fact, with this statement the contrary, many of the facts and researchReports indicate that single women who are not married or unmarried cohabiting women, more vulnerable to violence from family. Reached this conclusion, one reason perhaps is even in the presence of domestic violence, marriage and women will subconsciously hide, "scandalous, can not be outside the yang." Another reason is that women will not be willing to marry a violent man, even after marriage found that violence is an element, but also likely to divorce. Therefore, acts of violence in marriage, at least in the investigation report, is less. Marriage, men usually will not use violence to treat their wives, because of love, they are willing to let his wife be more happy happy, but also willing to let family harmony and harmonious integration into the community the community. Therefore, the influence of society but it is still much that can help you see that a man is a propensity to violence.



Fallacy 8: married people sex lives than single people are more dissatisfied with the number of sex is also less.

Truth: According to a large-scale nationwide survey, both in quality and quantity of sexual life, couples than unmarried men and women should be better. Not only occupy a number of advantages, even between husband and wife to enjoy sex lives of physical and mental double the fun.



Fallacy 9: Cohabitation is a marriage without a marriage certificate

　　Truth: the benefits of marriage, cohabitation almost all --- regardless of physical health, property or moral satisfaction aspects. In these marriages can benefit from aspects of cohabitants are difficult to obtain, and cohabitation is more like a simple combination of a stranger, simply just living together. This is partly because cohabitants as married couples do not completely loyal to each other, they are more focused on their own interests rather than the other.



Fallacy 10: Now divorced like fashion, unhappy marriage to end it. Only those who have a happy marriage of talent will strictly adhere to siege, unlike in the past, no matter how bad the marriage, or will it stick to the old.

Facts: According to several large-scale nationwide survey results, people's sense of happiness in marriage is not only not increased, but a slight decline. In recent years, some studies also show that, with two or three decades ago, increasing the pressure in the work situation, the exchange of marriage dwindling, more and more contradictions.